Raskin: I think the third book might when one of them has a kid and one of them doesn’t. What do you think might happen in the next book? Even if there are moments where I have to play a little catch up, or I’m not as educated as I wish I could be. I’m happy that you’ve introduced me so much to the LGBTQ community, and I’m more aware of what’s going on around me and how people live, and for how it’s enriched my life. Raskin: I think most healthy friendships when you’re an adult, you don’t do everything together. “Look at these straight girls, it looks so effortless!” Allison has a lot of straight girls who she’s friends with, and I watch it from a distance like, “how does this work?” Like I’m watching animals at the zoo. I think I have a hard time with female friendship because of how removed I had to be when I was younger as a queer person. And I know Allison was a little hurt that I was going someplace on my birthday that she couldn’t go, which I totally get. I remember when it was my birthday a few years ago and I was going on a queer women camping trip to A-Camp. How does it affect a friendship for one person to be straight and the other queer?ĭunn: There’ve been bumps, definitely. It was a hard journey with internalized biphobia because I was figuring out my job and what I want to do, and also figure out my bisexuality. I really had to barrel though that and be like, “whatever I don’t care.” And then it turned out it wasn’t true, most lesbians aren’t like that. Then I found people in 2016 who were like, “bisexuality’s valid and you’re totally fine.” And I was like, “ WHAT?” I was used to saying, “I can’t hang out in these spaces, lesbians don’t like me,” which is sad. As a bisexual, I remember lesbians shutting me out, or they’d talk in front of me about going to lesbian night at the bar and they wouldn’t invite me. I didn’t have close queer friends - women, I had gay guy friends - but I didn’t have women friends until like four years ago.īefore that, even in college, I wasn’t that close with other queer women. Raskin: It definitely brought back memories of insecurity and not being able to walk through the world with confidence … it’s a little sad to know that the younger version of your wasn’t as strong as she could have been.ĭoes queerness complicate life after college, or open doors?ĭunn: I took a long time to find a queer community, which I think Gen is struggling with, too. I always joke, “if I didn’t meet Allison, would I be dead?” ĭid writing the book open up any memories you hadn’t thought about in a while? Allison was a little but of an influence toward, “hey maybe this isn’t so great.” And that influence has carried on to today. When we did meet I was very similar to Gen - I was a mess and hooking up with inappropriate people and way more party-heavy. These girls are 22, and Allison and I didn’t meet until Allison was 24 and I was 25. But when you’re younger, you need those connections to bounce things off someone.ĭunn: It’s definitely similar to how our friendship was. As I’ve grown older, I can experience something and not immediately have to call another person and tell them about it. Raskin: Ava’s character is very heavily dependent on Gen in a way that I, at 30 years old, am not. Were there elements you felt strongly about including in the book?ĭunn: The STI storyline is something we really wanted to focus on.ĭunn: I was a journalist, mostly in high school, and I had the experience of not having a lot of queer community around. It makes it more intimate… It gives them room to be more flawed - in a private conversation with your friend, you’re going to be a little darker and a little shittier than if you were saying something publicly. Why write the book as a series of messages?ĭunn: I think part of it is you’re hearing directly from them so they’re unreliable narrators. We maybe should have outlined, but we didn’t! A lot of it was doing things in the moment that made us laugh. For a lot of the book we had a Google doc open and both typed in it.ĭunn: We knew some of the plot points we wanted to hit. We didn’t divide it up by character or anything. Raskin: It’s more standard than you might think. What was your writing process for the book? We jumped ahead to a milestone where friendships can either fade away or get stronger. ![]() Raskin: We had a great time with I Hate Everyone but You, and to us it felt like the story of those characters wasn’t over because it was the story of their friendship and their friendship wasn’t over.
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